Questions

What is this?

A dating and support app for people living with HSV and HIV. Everyone here has already had the conversation you have been dreading, which means you do not have to have it again on a first date.

Who can see my profile?

Verified members in your own community, within your distance range. Nobody else — not the public web, not search engines, not members of the other community unless you have both opted in.

This is enforced in the database rather than in the app, so a bug in a screen cannot show your profile to someone who should not see it.

What if someone I know is on here?

They might be. Everyone here is in the same position, and anyone who recognises you has the same reason to be discreet that you do.

You can block anyone at any time, with no explanation. A block is immediate and works both ways: they disappear from your view and you from theirs.

Why do I have to verify?

Because fake profiles are the single biggest complaint about every other app in this space, and the only way to promise there are none is to check.

It is a phone number and one selfie, checked automatically, usually in under two minutes. The selfie is deleted as soon as the check finishes — we keep whether it passed, and nothing else. No documents, no ID, no medical records, ever.

What is the Drop?

Three people, once a day, chosen for you. Not a feed to scroll and not a deck to swipe — three, and then you are done for the day.

Everyone gets three. It does not change if you pay, and there is no way to buy a fourth.

If there are not many people near you, you get fewer, and the app says so rather than filling the gap with profiles nobody has opened in months.

Why do my chats have a timer?

Every chat has seven days to turn into a plan. If it does not, it closes on its own — with a note, to both of you.

It is there so that nothing sits half-alive for months, and so that nobody is left wondering whether they were ghosted. Confirm a plan with someone and the timer disappears.

You cannot buy more time, and neither can anyone else. That is the point of it.

What happens if someone stops replying?

The chat closes on its own and you get a note. Every ending here carries one — declining, closing early, or running out of time.

You will not be left refreshing something that was over a week ago.

What if I am not looking to date?

Switch to support-only mode. You disappear from dating entirely — no Drop, no browse, and nobody can send you a connect — and you keep every community room.

You can leave dating instantly, whenever you want. Coming back takes thirty days, so that the mode is a decision rather than a switch to flick.

What does it cost?

The free version is a real app: your profile, verification, the Drop, browse, real messaging, three connects a day, and every community room.

Premium raises how many people you can reach and gives you more control over browsing. It never buys you a bigger Drop, more time on a chat, or a way around anyone's privacy settings. Those are not for sale here at any price.

Do I have to show my face?

You choose. Photos can be clear to everyone who can see your profile, or blurred until you and someone else have both said yes.

Blurred means blurred before it leaves our servers. The clear version is not sent to anyone who has not connected with you.

What do your notifications say?

As little as possible. “You have a new message.” “Tonight’s Drop is ready.” Never a name, never a preview, and never a word about anyone’s health.

Every email we send has the same subject line. Someone glancing at your phone learns nothing.

What happens if I leave?

Everything goes. Within seven days your profile, photos, messages and every other row belonging to you are removed from our database and our file storage, and any subscription is cancelled.

It is a deletion, not a hidden account waiting to be reactivated.